Future ManFriend Check-List

Well it's no secret that I seem to have zero luck with guys. When I first started dating I was attracted to the bad boys who I thought I could change (completely deluded I know). *Lauren Conrad quote* "I think that everyone can change if the right person comes along... and I think that every girl wants to be the right person. Every girl wants to be the one girl that can change that guy." 

So then I tried dating younger guys who were really sweet but of course they turned out to be just as bad as the others, but only showed this when we were broken up. So weird, they were so nice and really lovely as boyfriends but as soon as we split up they turn into immature childish pricks.

Anyways, I have made a check-list for dating that I am really going to try and stick by.



MUSTS (Things I will not compromise on)

- Honest. I can not stress this enough, honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship. Just be honest, there is no point in lying because the truth always comes out sooner or later. NO LIES. Even if they are stupid little ones like where you were or who you were with even if it's because you went to see the new Star Wars movie with a few friends and you knew i'd make fun of you.
- Trustworthy. I want to be with someone who I can trust, who i'm not going to worry about or get paranoid when he is out with the lads. Someone who isn't shady with their phone or Facebook etc. Not that i'd be asking for your passwords or to look through your phone, I wouldn't do that. But if i asked for your phone to say make a call if mine was dead, you wouldn't freak out. Or you wouldn't constantly take it with you everywhere even if you were just going to the bathroom. There should be trust there that you have nothing to hide and that you also trust me enough to not go through your phone.
- Communication. I want someone who isn't afraid to talk to me even if they are worried that it will upset me. I just want someone to feel comfortable with me and that they feel like they can tell me anything. I want someone to be able to confide in me about their worries, their hopes, their crazy thoughts and just everything really. I don't want to have any secrets.
- Respect. Someone who treats me with respect, who wouldn't intentionally do or say something that they know would hurt me. 
- Willing to say sorry. I know that I can be really stubborn sometimes but when I know I am wrong, I apologise. I do anything I can to try to make it up to that person. I want someone who does the same.
- Has strong opinions. I want someone who is opinionated and feels strongly about them. It's so refreshing being with someone who can think for themselves and isn't afraid to express their way of thinking, even if I don't agree with it.
- Compromise. I want to be with someone who is willing to compromise about things and not be super stubborn. If you do something that I would like to do and you don't necessarily want to, then I will do the same for you. Being in a relationship means sharing your interests with someone and trying to make an effort with their interests and hobbies.
- Not so much into clubbing. I don't want a guy who goes out clubbing and drinking like 3 times a week. I'd much prefer to date a guy who would rather go to a bar than a nightclub. Don't get me wrong, I love to go out on a girls night every once in a while but i'm getting too old to be doing it all the time. I want a guy who feels the same.
- Sexual attraction. Yes I know that looks and sex aren't everything but I find it quite important in a relationship. I want to be with someone who I think is gorgeous and want to be with physically. To me regular sex is a must, if we aren't being intimate then we may as well be just friends. 
- Can make me laugh. This is also really important to me, I want to be with someone who I enjoy spending time with. I need someone who knows how to make me smile and cheer me up when i'm sad.



MASSIVE BONUS POINTS

- Older than me. Dating a younger guy has just proved that women are miles ahead of boys when it comes to maturity. I do believe it does just depend on the person but i'd prefer an older guy.
- Built & Tall. Because I am short, i've always wanted a guy who is tall and strong. I want to feel like I am with a man, not a boy. They don't have to be in Zac Efron shape (although I feel like he'd make an excellent boyfriend, just saying) but strong enough that I would feel safe and protected. And of course if they can lift me up and carry me without struggle then that is just super hot.
- Loves to eat healthy. I love veggies and I find it so difficult to be with someone who doesn't eat them. I always cook with them, they are pretty much in every meal I eat so having to make a separate dinner for someone is just a pain in the ass. I have been trying to change my eating habits and diet so it would be nice if a guy was willing to have a healthy meal with me for moral support. Don't get me wrong, I also love going out for Italian food and a cheeky Chinese takeaway once in a while.
- Someone who can cook. I have no idea why this is such a big turn on for me but when a guy cooks you meal, it just sweeps me off my feet. Esp if they make something that they know I really like. I just think it's quite romantic and thoughtful.
- American. I just love American guys, it's the accent and I think Hollywood has perhaps given me a false perception of how they really are lol but still. I've always wanted to move to the USA as I want to raise my future kids there, the land of opportunity and all that. I esp have a thing for a Southern guy who looks good in dark jeans, a white vest top and a cowboy hat, just WOW!!! Think Garrett Hedlund in County Strong.....perfect.
- Musically talented. I am a big sucker for a guy who can sing and/or play guitar, drums or the piano. I just think there is something so sexy about it.
- Similar music taste. I love music and I listen to so many genres and types, my favourite bands and songs are just a total mix and i'd consider my taste quite eclectic. Having similar tastes means we can go to concerts together which we would both enjoy but I am also open to giving everything a try. It is cool when you discover new bands and new music because your partner has introduced you to it.
- Like the same movies. When you want to just enjoy a DVD duvet date then I feel like picking the right movie is important. If you can both agree on something then it makes life easy. I do believe in compromise however, so watching a movie you don't really want to watch just because the other does, is really cute. This of course works both ways, although I do have my limit which i'm sure every guy does too *cough cough, The Notebook* I am a pretty big movie buff and I love watching movies that I have never seen before because I like the surprise. There are movies I can watch over and over again but of course I will always know what happens at the end.
- Enjoys random activities. I love going on random dates, picnics or a trip to the beach. I don't want to just sit in the house all the time, I want to do things socially with someone. Even if it's just going to the museum or a walk to the park, it's nice to get out and experience new things. Farmers markets and fairs are always fun. 
- Thoughtfulness. I would love someone who makes little cute gestures, not big romantic and expensive ones. Don't get me wrong, that is lovely sometimes but gestures in a more subtle way is more thoughtful I think. One of my ex's used to bring me love hearts and cherry coke when I was feeling sad and I thought it was the loveliest thing ever. It always cheered me up and was just so adorable. It's just nice to be surprised sometimes like buying someone's lunch and bringing it to them in work. Little gestures I find are nicer than big ones. I also hate really expensive gifts, i'd prefer something sentimental like a scrapbook. That way I don't feel guilty if I have not spent as much money as them, I always try to set a price limit for Christmas and birthdays.